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Conversational Hypnosis: Eye-Accessing Cues Part I

Conversational hypnosis is full of various techniques that you can use on other people to get what you want! It is a way that you can consciously act on their subconscious minds, without them knowing it. Of course, I always encourage people to use conversational hypnosis for good because there are so many powerful things you can do with conversational hypnosis.

In this article, I am going to introduce a unique and interesting topic. I am going to talk about eye-accessing cues. You can actually look at someone’s face and look at their eyes. You can watch the direction in which their eyes are moving with each thing that they are saying or thinking.

The importance of watching their eyes during a conversation is that their eyes can reveal what their mind is thinking. Now let’s talk about the six different eye-accessing cues:

Visually Created (VC): when someone is looking up and to the left (if you are facing them) they are visually creating something in their mind. They are trying to create a new image.

Auditory Created (AC): when someone is looking across to the left they are auditory creating something in their mind. They are trying create something that they heard.

Kinesthetic (K): when someone looks down to the left, they are creating something kinesthetically in their mind. They refer to the sense of touch or motion.

Visually Remembered (VR): when someone is looking up and to the right, they are remembering a visual image.

Auditory Remembered (AC): when someone is looking across and to the right, they are trying to remember something that they heard.

Internal Dialogue (ID): when someone is looking down and to the right, they are repeating their inner dialogue.

Watching someone’s eye-accessing cues takes practice. You have to be very in tune with what they are saying and the direction of their eye movements. As with any of these conversational hypnosis techniques, it will take some practice getting used to. I encourage you to practice with friends and really pay attention to their eye-accessing cues. Go have fun with it!

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Conversational Hypnosis: Eye-Accessing Cues Part II

Conversational hypnosis is a program consisting of many hypnosis and NLP techniques. These techniques you can be useful in many different situations such as dating, sales, and developing rapport with another person. It is a way that you can consciously act on someone’s subconscious mind, without them knowing it. Of course, I always encourage people to use conversational hypnosis for good because there are so many powerful techniques you can use with conversational hypnosis.

In my last article I talked about the six different eye accessing cues. They were: visually created (VC), auditory created (AC), kinesthetic (K), visually remembered (VR), auditory remembered (AR), and internal dialogue (IR). Basically, these cues are apparent by the direction someone is looking and thus you can read what is going on in their mind.

Law enforcement agencies train their agents with this technology. This is true in the USA and probably other countries. The Federal Agents are trained at FLETC. The fact that the US government pays money to have their Federal Agents trained in this technology is good news. The US Federal Government sees that it is important to train their agents with this technique so that their agents can get into the minds of someone they are interrogating.

Do keep in mind that this information is out there. If you have someone staring right at you, it may be someone who is using this technology on you. Chances are you will be dealing with a date, someone to whom you may be selling something to, a child, a parent, husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend or someone who is your boss or employee.

Before you can use any of this technology you must first determine which way the person is oriented, referring to whether they use the accessing cues “normally” or the opposite. If you want to see if someone is normally oriented, you would talk to them about something you know they have never seen before. For example, you might mention a character in a movie or something that would require them to create something visual. They would have to create it in their minds. You will then see which way they look when they create something visual. If they look up to their right, you know that they are normally oriented. If they look up to their left, you know that they are oppositely oriented.

As you can see it will take some practice to get used to someone’s eye accessing cues. After you have practiced with some friends, go ahead and try it out on people you don’t know. Try to see if you can get into their mind. Learning eye-accessing cues is a very powerful technique. It allows you learn a little more about the person you are talking to than if you were just having a normal conversation.

I encourage you to go out and try this technique on people. It is fascinating and a great skill to have!

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Conversational Hypnosis: Establishing Rapport with Pacing

Conversational hypnosis is all about getting your way. Who does not want to get their way and be in control of situations? Being in control gives you power and that leads to getting what you want.

The most important aspect of conversational hypnosis is learning the art of developing rapport with another person. Rapport is the ability to be “in tune” with someone subconsciously. It is important to establish rapport because rapport will help you gain a sense of trust with the other person. Rapport will allow you to persuade and control to ultimately get your way.

Seventy percent of a “conversation” occurs without words. You can convey a lot with body language, facial expression, and hand gestures. There are different techniques to use while interacting with someone. Both verbal and non-verbal cues are used to establish rapport.

Rapport can be established verbally and non-verbally through pacing and mirroring. Pacing is doing what someone else does in the same way that they do it. Pacing can be verbal or non-verbal, involving conversation, body language, and rhythm to name a few. Mirroring is non-verbal and involves body language, hand gestures, and anything not involving conversation. In this article I will just talk about pacing.

Establishing rapport using pacing can involve figuring out a persons representational system (ie: visual, auditory, kinesthetic) and using this to your advantage. Matching someone’s representational system makes the other person feel as though you are able to easily relate to them.

Another pacing technique involves listening to the other person’s rhythm as they speak. Most people have a natural cadence to their speech. Pay attention to their tempo and see if you can match it. This creates rapport with a natural cadence and flow to the conversation.

Another cue to pay attention to is their tone of voice. Is it high pitched or low pitched? If it is a very distinct pitch, then it is probably not a good idea to match because it could cause the opposite of rapport! If matching their voice tone involves just a slight change in your tone, then try it out. You will be surprised at how easy this technique is.

In order to establish rapport through pacing, you must practice! Give yourself around one week to try these techniques out on friends or strangers. It is a lot of fun to practice at a party. Be patient and practice and you too can master these skills to develop rapport.

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What Is Conversational Hypnosis

Conversational hypnosis is the ability to “hypnotize” people through conversation. I put the word hypnotize in quotations because generally speaking, conversational hypnosis does not put someone in a trance. Learning the skills of conversational hypnosis enables you to get what you want from people.

Everyone wants the ability to get what they want from other people. Conversational hypnosis allows you to develop rapport with another person so that you are easily able to convey what you want either in a direct or embedded way.

Conversational hypnosis deals a lot with NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming. One aspect of NLP and conversational hypnosis are representational systems. There are three major representational systems: visual, auditory, and kinesthetic.

The visual representational system describes people who gravitate towards their visual field. These are types of people who are more in tune with their visual field. When explaining something to someone who is visual they are most likely to picture it in their minds. Later, when accessing this conversation or story a visual person will be able to visualize the story in their head.

The auditory representational system describes people who gravitate towards their auditory field. These people are more in tune with their hearing ability and with sounds. They tend to listen to words and sounds and associate things with these words and sounds. People who are lean toward an auditory representation system often say “sounds good” or “I hear what you are saying.”

The kinesthetic representational system describes people who depend on their feeling or sense of touch. These people are most in tune with their sense of touch. When talking with someone who depends on their kinesthetic representational system, they might say “hold on” when they are asking you to wait.

When I work with clients, I like to figure out whether they depend on visual, auditory, or kinesthetic clues. When I figure out what representational system describes them, I am better able to develop rapport with them. Developing rapport is very important during any type of therapy between a client and their therapist whether it is hypnotherapy or psychiatry.

Being able to appeal to a client’s representational system allows me to develop rapport with them and a level of trust is established. It also helps the client realize that I am there to help them make positive changes in their life. They feel as though I understand exactly what they are going through. A client is more likely to make changes in their own life if they feel confident and at ease around their therapist.

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Conversational Hypnosis: Establish Rapport with Leading

Conversational hypnosis is a program of powerful techniques used to persuade and control those around you. Not only is conversational hypnosis used so that you have influence over others, but it is also used so that other people do not take advantage of you. Conversational hypnosis allows you to establish rapport with other individuals and that leads to you getting what you want.

The most important aspect of conversational hypnosis is learning how to develop rapport with other people. Rapport is the ability to be “in tune” with someone subconsciously. Rapport will enable others to have trust in you. Rapport will allow you to gain their trust so that you can get what you want.

In past articles we have talked about establishing rapport through pacing and mirroring techniques. In this article I am going to talk about the technique of leading. Leading is a technique to use after you have been pacing someone for about 5-10 minutes. However, I highly suggest practicing leading for a week on friends or strangers before trying it out to get what you want.

Leading is where you make someone do what you want them to do. For example, if you have been pacing and mirroring someone for a little while, it is time to test to see if they have developed rapport with you. If you have established rapport correctly, you can take the lead by doing something and they will follow.

It is important to make sure you have mastered mirroring and pacing before you move on to leading. Be sure to practice all three techniques before being put in a serious position where you intend to lead someone. These techniques take a little bit of practice to master and before long you will be a master of conversational hypnosis.

While practicing on friends or strangers, I suggest keeping the leading simple. For example, after you have mirrored and paced someone for 5-10 minutes, you can lead them by scratching your head. If they scratch their head, you have accomplished your goal of leading them.

Leading is a great technique to use in a business setting because you can get them to do what you want them to do. However, it is very important to be careful in a business setting. It is possible that other business people know about conversational hypnosis. Let’s say for example that you scratch your head. If the other person waits a little while and then scratches their head, then your technique is a success. However if they scratch their head very quickly after you did, perhaps they are trying to pace you. So, be careful!

Another way you can use leading is to slow someone’s voice tempo, or to speed it up. If someone is speaking too quickly, you can start slowing down your voice and see if they follow your lead. Leading has all sorts of possibilities. I encourage you to practice this skill and soon you will be leading people to do what you want!