rapport – Subliminal Messages Blog

Conversational hypnosis is all about getting your way. Who does not want to get their way and be in control of situations? Being in control gives you power and that leads to getting what you want.

The most important aspect of conversational hypnosis is learning the art of developing rapport with another person. Rapport is the ability to be “in tune” with someone subconsciously. It is important to establish rapport because rapport will help you gain a sense of trust with the other person. Rapport will allow you to persuade and control to ultimately get your way.

Seventy percent of a “conversation” occurs without words. You can convey a lot with body language, facial expression, and hand gestures. There are different techniques to use while interacting with someone. Both verbal and non-verbal cues are used to establish rapport.

Rapport can be established verbally and non-verbally through pacing and mirroring. Pacing is doing what someone else does in the same way that they do it. Pacing can be verbal or non-verbal, involving conversation, body language, and rhythm to name a few. Mirroring is non-verbal and involves body language, hand gestures, and anything not involving conversation. In this article I will just talk about pacing.

Establishing rapport using pacing can involve figuring out a persons representational system (ie: visual, auditory, kinesthetic) and using this to your advantage. Matching someone’s representational system makes the other person feel as though you are able to easily relate to them.

Another pacing technique involves listening to the other person’s rhythm as they speak. Most people have a natural cadence to their speech. Pay attention to their tempo and see if you can match it. This creates rapport with a natural cadence and flow to the conversation.

Another cue to pay attention to is their tone of voice. Is it high pitched or low pitched? If it is a very distinct pitch, then it is probably not a good idea to match because it could cause the opposite of rapport! If matching their voice tone involves just a slight change in your tone, then try it out. You will be surprised at how easy this technique is.

In order to establish rapport through pacing, you must practice! Give yourself around one week to try these techniques out on friends or strangers. It is a lot of fun to practice at a party. Be patient and practice and you too can master these skills to develop rapport.

Conversational Hypnosis: Establish Rapport with Leading

Conversational hypnosis is a program of powerful techniques used to persuade and control those around you. Not only is conversational hypnosis used so that you have influence over others, but it is also used so that other people do not take advantage of you. Conversational hypnosis allows you to establish rapport with other individuals and that leads to you getting what you want.

The most important aspect of conversational hypnosis is learning how to develop rapport with other people. Rapport is the ability to be “in tune” with someone subconsciously. Rapport will enable others to have trust in you. Rapport will allow you to gain their trust so that you can get what you want.

In past articles we have talked about establishing rapport through pacing and mirroring techniques. In this article I am going to talk about the technique of leading. Leading is a technique to use after you have been pacing someone for about 5-10 minutes. However, I highly suggest practicing leading for a week on friends or strangers before trying it out to get what you want.

Leading is where you make someone do what you want them to do. For example, if you have been pacing and mirroring someone for a little while, it is time to test to see if they have developed rapport with you. If you have established rapport correctly, you can take the lead by doing something and they will follow.

It is important to make sure you have mastered mirroring and pacing before you move on to leading. Be sure to practice all three techniques before being put in a serious position where you intend to lead someone. These techniques take a little bit of practice to master and before long you will be a master of conversational hypnosis.

While practicing on friends or strangers, I suggest keeping the leading simple. For example, after you have mirrored and paced someone for 5-10 minutes, you can lead them by scratching your head. If they scratch their head, you have accomplished your goal of leading them.

Leading is a great technique to use in a business setting because you can get them to do what you want them to do. However, it is very important to be careful in a business setting. It is possible that other business people know about conversational hypnosis. Let’s say for example that you scratch your head. If the other person waits a little while and then scratches their head, then your technique is a success. However if they scratch their head very quickly after you did, perhaps they are trying to pace you. So, be careful!

Another way you can use leading is to slow someone’s voice tempo, or to speed it up. If someone is speaking too quickly, you can start slowing down your voice and see if they follow your lead. Leading has all sorts of possibilities. I encourage you to practice this skill and soon you will be leading people to do what you want!